I decided to refresh our collection of date night questions but I didn’t want to start from scratch. I went searching online and found a blog that listed numerous questions. There were approximately 100 questions, categorized into six categories. I’ve listed the categories and a sample question.
- General date questions
- If money and time weren’t an issue, what would you most like to do?
- Getting to know one another
- What one thing have you learned about God (or yourself) this past year?
- Honoring one another
- Some qualities I see in you that I would like to cultivate in my own life are…
- What is your greatest source of frustration right now? How have you achieved victory in your attitude?
- Marriage and family life
- As a demonstration of my love for you, I would like to improve in the area of . . .
- Home schooling
- How can I support you as you work so diligently as an educator of our children? Where are you defining education in a way that brings undue hardship on yourself?
I copied and pasted the questions into a Word document for easy access. I even color coded the questions. I printed and cut the questions into strips. Then I placed them in an envelope with a cute cover.
I had planned to use the questions sporadically over the weekend. Things didn’t turn out as planned, Dad couldn’t wait. He initiated the dialogue within eight miles into the trip. The file never got a rest.
I randomly selected a paper strip from the envelope. I read the question. Dad and I took turns answering the question for ourselves. Then we took turns answering the question for each other. We answered majority of the questions. I kept a journal of our answers. This exchange was very edifying for us as a couple and as an individual.
The Love Envelope is what we now call the date night questions. It was Dad’s favorite part of the trip. He has requested that I bring the envelope along every time we get a chance to be alone (dinner for two in the kitchen while the kid’s occupy themselves, shopping trips, gas runs, Adoration, etc…).
The time we had away, to enter into dialogue and be fully attentive to each other, yielded a beautiful refreshment and intimacy. That intimacy has helped to sustain us through some recent trials.
ALL PRAISE AND GLORY TO GOD!
*the Date Night Questions we found on a non-Catholic website. Some of the questions were altered.